Doesn’t something inside you feel off when you keep booking the same Pilates class with that fitness influencer? Or when you go home and try to blend up a random avocado smoothie that tastes like crap? Or when you buy overpriced skincare products just because you’ve been told that “anti-aging” is essential—and if you don’t get with the programme, you’ll end up lonely, sad, and feel ugly forever?
Let’s cut the bullsh*t.
You’re not reaching your goals because your attention is on the wrong thing, and you’re coming from a place of lack.
Being consistent and feeling confident in the basics of health and fitness is how you actually begin to build something meaningful and reach your goals. That’s how you grow—bottom up, inside out. Not by idolising the latest fads and bouncing from one shiny fitness class to the next trendy diet or boring meditation.
Deep down, you know it feels incongruent. You can sense the disconnection, the fakeness, the temporary nature of it all. There’s something hollow about the way wellness is portrayed in all its polished, new-age glory—not to mention how everyone just seems to recreate the same old stuff.
And all that noise? It makes it hard to hear yourself—what’s actually best for you. When you approach a goal or routine from a place of lack or insecurity, experiences with that same energy show up in your reality. It’s not just about what you do, but the energy you do it with.
Consistency creates trust. And when you trust yourself, you’re able to show up better—for your goals, your health, your life, and the people you love.
But you don’t build consistency by skimming the surface. You don’t build it by chasing trends. You build it through depth—by getting to know your beliefs, your patterns, your values.
Here’s what I see too often in this space: coaches who look like they spent three hours on hair and makeup just to film a workout video. Meal prep that’s joyless, bland, and completely disconnected from real satisfaction (seriously—where’s the sourdough? The hearty, rich meals?). And an overwhelming flood of content on what to do and how to do it best—most of it irrelevant, overcomplicated, oversexualised, cookie-cutter, and designed to keep people looping in the same cycles.
I talk about the basics a lot—because they matter.
Movement, health, and wellness practices don’t need to be fancy. They need to be consistent and aligned with you. If you don’t know how to do a basic squat, hinge, push, pull, or plank—that’s a great place to start.
Basic nutrition? Let’s start simple: Do you have food in the fridge regularly?
Are you eating enough?
Are you cooking for yourself and eating real, nourishing meals?
What foods are you prioritising?
These are the kinds of questions that matter. I’m not going to give my personal or professional answers here—that’s my job, and I can’t give you direction without knowing you: your goals, your history, your patterns. If someone’s coaching you the same way they coach everyone else, it’s not real help. It’s a waste of your time and money.
Start by stepping back. Notice your habits, your energy, and your level of understanding. Be honest: Are you just mindlessly consuming content that keeps you spinning your wheels? Are you chasing what looks good online because it’s white, sparkly, and has a bow on top?
Go outside. Move your body in basic ways. Come back in. Make yourself a real, nourishing meal. Then, see how you feel.
And maybe… you still feel like pooh. That’s okay. It’s probably a sign there’s deeper stuff to work through—around your self-image, your self-worth, and the beliefs you hold about yourself.
But if you quiet the noise for long enough, you’ll feel it: all of this performative wellness stuff is off. It feels meaningless, empty and shallow.
Don’t you want to do things with purpose? With grit? Don’t you want to build something that lasts—trust with yourself, confidence in your choices, clarity in your why?
I say this with compassion—for my past self and for anyone else who’s experienced the trendy loops.
In health,
Abigail
YES. This. All of this.
The constant chase for the next shiny trend can make us feel like we’re on a never-ending treadmill, always running but never getting anywhere meaningful. The basics you outlined are where true growth happens. And that’s the message we need to keep amplifying. Well done!
I love this so much! It’s raw, honest, and very truthful! Proud of all your hard work!🥰🙏🏻❤️